The father wound is a term to describe the consequences of a father figure being absent. The father might be physically absent, emotionally distant or unavailable, physically or verbally abusive, or overly critical and dismissive of the child’s behavior. Not having a father figure present might show up in (romantic) relationships and a feeling of lack of safety and worthiness.

It’s a good week when Jose Reyes is back on the podcast. You remember Jose from episode three. In this episode, Jose and I switch roles and Jose is interviewing me. It is a beautiful conversation about dating and heartbreak, celibacy and sex, and what it means to truly be naked.

What is a trigger? A trigger occurs when you are in a situation that reminds you of something that happened in your past or brings up emotions. Triggers can come up both in the context of trauma, but also just as emotions.

I always love talking to Alisha. She is just a light. In this episode, Alisha and I talk about power of traveling, how she went from her corporate career to becoming a coach, and her story of calling in her life partner.

In this episode, I talk about the four attachment styles. The main distinction here is secure and insecure. If we have a secure attachment style, it is easy for us to be in relationship with others, we feel comfortable with intimacy and sharing our feelings. If we have an insecure attachment style, we are either anxious, avoidant or disorganized when it comes to relating to others and forming relationships.

Bonnie and I met at a workshop with the one and only Rob Bell named “Something to Say” in 2019 in Los Angeles. We talk about the magic of that workshop. Bonnie shares about her journey of being a woman and a theologian. We talk about that journey, her journey, the journey to the sacred feminine. And, we talk about the American Dream. I share some thoughts on how I see the American Dream as a European.

In this episode, I share with you the Elementum Seasonal Model. This model describes the four seasons of nature, winter, spring, summer, and fall, as phases that we move through in our lives. Understanding the purpose of each season and what to focus on in the season that you're in can be a powerful tool to move through your life and forward with what's present for you.

We hold many narratives in society how men as a collective should NOT behave. In this episode, Shaun Cooke shares about the impact such narratives have on men today.

As we move through our lives we get hurt. That is scary and painful, so we close our hearts. That shuts out the pain, but it also shuts out the joy and deep connection to others. Whatever that means in your life right now to keep your heart open, to lean in, to stay with something, even if it feels scary, knowing that nobody can make or break you: keep your heart open, let love come in and give love to other people. I know it's scary, but it's so worth it. 

How to get out of a toxic relationship? And how meet good guys when you’re ready for a romantic relationship, but it doesn’t seem to be working?

It is two people standing next to each other, hand in hand, looking in the same direction as opposed to looking at each other. Both have done a significant amount of work on themselves. They feel whole and complete but not finished Because there's always more work to do. It's when we really know who we are and feel like there's nothing missing.

Anger is about boundaries. It comes up when a line is being crossed, a boundary being crossed. We can ask: What's the line? Where do I feel like my boundaries are being trapped on? Where do I feel like I'm being taken advantage of? Where am I not heard, not seen? Where have I given my power away?

Have you ever felt like you needed to go somewhere else to find happiness? Have you traveled to world looking for something just to discover that it is already within you?

In the last couple of years, a lot of people have had to face off with uncertainty. All the plans that we made, all the ideas that we had, what to do, where to go, what to say, they kind of crashed down. And it got me thinking about my relationship with uncertainty.

Tifane Mayberry is a Health and Life Coach studied in Naturopathic and Chinese Medicine with a Feminist Studies background. She is a former Youth Leadership Mentor and Ex-Hollywood Hairdresser who seeks to help others break ancestral patterns that no longer serve them while guiding them from shame into change.

My invitation to you when you are experiencing an intense emotion is to be present with them. Noticing where you feel the emotion your body. Bringing awareness to it. Giving it whatever space it needs. It might not even take more an a few minutes. Give the sadness, the anger, the joy what it needs. Make room for it in your body. Let the energy move through your body. Let it clear you up. Let it cleanse you.

Jose is a fellow coach, entrepreneur, co-creator and formulator at the supplement company Bucked Up and the dad of two girls. We talk about how we all have the ability to decide our rock bottom. From here, it only goes up. That's something we can all decide.

Everybody has a core essence. You either have a more feminine essence or you have a more masculine essence. That is the most natural way for you to show up in the world.

Sophia is a greek word meaning wisdom. Finding the wisdom in our everyday life, in our life here on earth, on this planet, in this human experience, is what we're going to talk about in this podcast.